Domestic Violence yes it is sadly still happening

For anyone in this situation I urge you to talk to someone get help. We as women need to find that inner strength to do what is needed to get out, and get away. Let me just put it out there, that I am all for Marriage. I would hope that you get married to a person that loves God, themselves, and you. We sometimes go off and get married for the wrong reasons, for comfort, companionship, financial hardships, parental pressures, immigration, and even being stubborn. None of those reasons should be reasons to get married. When you make the decision to get married it should be for love, and with the understanding that this relationship should be my last. Is my thought process antiquated? maybe.... but what is the alternative? you get together every couple of years with a different individual? maybe have children from different fathers? have low self esteem, and insecurities due to the instability of having a long term relationship. Then you have to factor in the vices and characters of every new person you "hook up" with. As for the Domestic Violence, abuse comes from both men, and women. Men tend to be a great deal more vicious, but women are creative in abuse. No one has the right to hurt their life partner. Heated arguments should be handled with respect for the other individual, never with violence or the implication of such. Your spouse should never fear you, or fear you leaving them, or any such nonsense. If children are involved they should never be a weapon. Too often parents argue, and the children suffer the most. There is NO reason anyone should ever lay their hands on you, actually I take that back, I think the one and only time I could ever see from the perspective of physically assaulting another individual is in regards to my children. If I feel that you put my minor children in any danger, or that you abused my child, then all bets are off. I don't mean something small, I mean if you put bruises on my child, or allowed anyone else to hurt my child, or your actions cause imminent harm to my child, then I can see myself lose perspective. I think that is only for extreme cases while the cops arrive. My blog, my opinion. Aside from that, I don't want any man/woman/or child to go through any form of Domestic Violence. Domestic Violence comes in many forms, physical, emotional, mental, sexual. There is help and there is hope. If you need help reach out to one of the many agencies out there. 1-800-799-7233 | 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) http://www.opdv.ny.gov/help/dvhotlines.html Teen Runaway, Legal help, confidential: http://www.door.org/programs-services/runaway-homeless-youth http://www.1800runaway.org/parenting-tips-advice/